The Does And Donts Of Marriage Counseling

There is something in this world that really gets to my nerves and that would be the so counter productive and ridiculous marriage counseling and advice. You don't need to be an expert of marriages to realize when you are hearing good information and when all is nothing but chatter. Of course there are lots of families that need this kind of help but in most cases the marriage advice does more bad than good. Paradoxically even those who were supposed to give professional marriage advice can fail due to their own problems in marriage.

I would also like to mention that I have a pretty religious girlfriend who is pretty much at the end of her marriage and that she has made everything to save her marriage. You might ask yourselves what this has to do with our above mentioned topic … well it has because she has been receiving this kind of professional help for four years ad it was no good. It gets more and more to my nerves as she takes her time to tell me what kind of advice is she receiving.

I mentioned earlier that my friend is very much into her religions roots, so in this case the first place you probably go to for marriage advice is your priest. You should always keep in mind that no matter what happens they will never tell you that perhaps you marriage was a mistake from the very beginning unless you endangered. My friend is quite in the same situation, nevertheless her pastor won't say a word to her. No matter what he will try to pursue her to save her marriage. It is nevertheless of utmost importance that her pastor will advise her to do the contrary if he finds out that her life might be in dangers.

I'm very aware that this sound a bit confusing and not so nice, but some people are not supposed to share the same roof. Our lives our too short and we simply cannot afford to waste time and to become bitterly unhappy next to somebody we don't love. I asked myself sometimes why the All-mighty want everyone to be so unhappy. Although I know I'm wrong about this I still don't want to let go of my opinion. Like I've just said before I became more upset as my friend shared her marriage advice with me.  

All in all I think that you should talk to various people if you are after some good marriage advice. With other words you should seek help form more than one source. If that what you hear is not exactly what you were expecting, you should keep moving on. So if your male counselor thinks that women are only meant to bow down in front of their husbands and just be miserable, you should realize that there is a problem. Similarly if a woman counselor seems to be bitter towards men in general, you are going to feel this in the marriage advice she gives you.

My own advice to all out there would be to try to thing clear to what somebody else says to you no matter how said or upset you might be. There are always two ways: either that what you hear is stupid, or not. Anyway you should be extremely careful when choosing your marriage counselor.